Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Update – Double Stroller and Preschool May 22, 2008

Filed under: children,family,moms,toddlers — middleagedmom @ 10:24 pm
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Double strollers – okay, we finally invested in a double stroller. We narrowed it down tothe Graco double stroller with “stadium” seats or the Baby Trend Sit ‘n Stand. After doing some research online and trying out the Graco in the store, we decided to purchase the Baby Trend.  Why?

Well, the Graco was pretty roomy and I did like the basket for storage but it felt so difficult to open and close. Also, the infant seat didn’t seem to secure properly even after reading the directions. I think those straps that are in the seat are supposed to secure the car seat but the straps were too short.

The Baby Trendwas actually stumbled upon by my husband. My cousin purchased a Baby Trend Sit ‘n Stand stroller at a local store but I was really looking for a stroller with 2 seats since I felt Princess would like sitting facing the back on the jump seat. Come to find out, Baby Trend makes a double stroller that has 2 seats. The back seat can later be removed so that you can use the jump seat. Yes, it does weigh a little bit more, approx. 35 lbs. but I think it is worth it.  Our local store didn’t have it in stock so we checked online and it turns out that the price would be almost the same. We ended up getting the one from One Step Ahead that’s made by Baby Trend.  It is a little big especially when you put the infant seat on it but it’s working out well for us. Princess really enjoys sitting in back of her sister. She can even touch her feet.

Preschool – I’ve mentioned the preschool process in an earlier post. Well, of the 3 preschools that we applied Princess for we decided to pull our application for one of them since we felt it wouldn’t be a good fit for Princess.  As for our 1st choice preschool, Princess didn’t get it. There were only a few slots (less than 5 openings) and a ton of applicants. She is on the waiting list but it looks grim. The 3rd school just called us to let us know that they have a slot for Princess but she has to be toilet trained. As of right now, she is not so we are paying our deposit to hold her slot and hope that she will be completely potty trained by August. In the meantime, we were searching for other options for Princess. Again, we dished out a lot of money for more preschool applications. We filled out many comprehensive applications asking very detailed questions with many paragraphs written to answer them.  We were asked to take part in parent interviews as well as child observations. Whew, did I mention that Princess is only 2 1/2 years old!  We looked into academic programs, less academic programs, Monetessori and Waldorf, just to name a few. As of now, she will start in June at a private preschool (quite expensive) for 1/2 day. She does not have to be potty trained if she starts in June. Their program seems a little academic but is extremely mindful of each child’s individual development. They aren’t fully focused on “academics” until age 4. The use portfolios to report to parents about each child. We are hopeful that this program will be good for Princess. We are hoping that she gets potty trained by August so that we can switch preschools to the one that we paid the deposit to (the 3rd school). We liked that program too but since she isn’t potty trained we couldn’t start her in June. This preschool is way less expensive than the one she will start at. Yes, I know that switching preschools may not be the best for her but we’ll play it by ear and see what happens. 

The only other thing that I’m worried about it her adjustment to being away from me.  Remember, she is clingy. I think I’ll have a hard time adjusting too.  I’ll keep you posted as it gets closer.

 

Attitude Adjustment

Filed under: children,Christianity,family,moms — middleagedmom @ 9:56 pm
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Sometimes I have a bad attitude.  Okay, maybe more than sometimes. Recently, I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed with things going on in our family (with Mr. MaD’s health and with Princess). Without getting into any details, I have to confess that rather than “looking at the glass half full” I’ve been looking at it as half empty. I have to remember that my attitude affects my family, especially my children. Then I remembered a quote that I read by Charles Swindoll. I am sharing it here today so that it may bless you.

Attitude  by Charles Swindoll

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.  It will make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.  We cannot change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.  We cannot change the inevitable.  The only think we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me an 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

 

Daily Gratitude May 20, 2008

Filed under: baby,children,Christianity,dad,family,moms,toddlers — middleagedmom @ 2:39 pm
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I’ve been working hard to remember how blessed I am. Yes, I do grumble. Unfortunately, probably more than I should. At church on Sunday, our pastor was speaking about not being envious because it really opens the door to the enemy. I don’t want to say that I’m envious but maybe I am. Sometimes I do think about how my life could be “easier like so and so’s life” or how I wish “baby would be a better sleeper like so and so.”  I guess that does sound envious.

I recently heard a story on the news about a family who lost their 3 year old son in a car accident. The drunk driver ran head on into their car and the little boy’s car seat flew out of the car. The parents were injured but alive and their 1 year old daughter only received a few minor scratches. Sadly, they went home  with one less child. I pray that God would give them peace and help them heal during this tragic time.

I really have a great life when I think about that family. I should have NOTHING to grumble about!

So, I am asking for God’s forgiveness today as I do everyday.

Instead, I will keep my thoughts on all the blessings I have in my life. Rather I shall meditate on this verse, Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

I believe God wants the best for our lives and he wants me to be faithful in all things. Trusting God in all our circumstances is the most difficult part of having a relationship with God but I am so blessed to have a merciful Father who is full of grace and love when it comes to my limitations.

So, today I proclaim that I am truly blessed with a terrific husband and 2 beautiful daughters. I am blessed that I am alive and able to take care of my children as a stay at home mom. I am blessed that I have a home to live in and  a car to drive. I am blessed for all the supportive loving people in my life. I really do have a lot to be thankful about.

I hope you take the time to remember how blessed you are today and everyday. God bless you!

 

Terrible Twos – Late Start? May 4, 2008

Filed under: 1-2-3 Magic,baby,children,discipline,family,moms,time out,toddlers — middleagedmom @ 5:28 pm

When Princess was younger, around 1 year of age, I remember our pediatrician asking us about tantrums.  At the time her behavior was pretty good, so I told the doctor that she does get upset but usually doesn’t stay upset for very long. She didn’t really do some of those tantrum-like behaviors that I know other kids have – kicking or stomping their feet, banging their heads, pounding their hands, etc.  Our pediatrician told us that it’s okay for her to get upset and cry and fuss but if it doesn’t last too long and if she doesn’t get really worked up then she probably isn’t having a tantrum. He also mentioned that since she wasn’t doing it at age 1 then she probably wouldn’t do it later.

Yeah, right!

Recently, Princess has been showing us the dreaded tantrum behavior. When she gets upset, especially if she doesn’t have her way, she lies on the ground and starts kicking her legs. Sometimes, she’ll kick her toy. Usually if I scold her about the kicking she stops. I’m not sure what’s going on but I don’t like it. The interesting thing is that is just started appearing within the last month or so…she’s already 2.5 years old.  I told Mr. MaD that I must be spoiling her since she knows that the tantrum behavior will probably get her what she wants, that’s why she continues to do it. (Yeah, I know, I need Supernanny!) I mentioned to Mr. MaD that sometimes when I’m home alone with the 2 girls (which is everyday) I can’t fight every battle with Princess, esp. if Baby is crying and fussing too. I also realized that we need a new time-out spot since we will soon give the crib to Baby. I’ve used the crib as her time-out spot in the past and that worked well because I didn’t have to force her to stay in one place. She doesn’t try to climb out of her crib.

It just so happened that I recently read a comment left by Deg on my post “To Discipline or not to discipline” and that reminded me about the book 1-2-3 Magic that I need to reread again. I know that I spoil Princess, I am the first to admit it. Yes, sometimes it is easier to just give in esp. when I’m feeling stressed. Sometimes I just feel sorry for her since Baby arrived too. Yep, I’m a softy when it comes to Princess. How ironic is that? I used to be such a critic of spoiled children…and look at me now! I apologize to all those parents who I ever passed judgement on.

So, I’m back to the drawing board when it comes to discipline. I’ll keep you all posted on my progress.  Obviously, the parent needs more training then the child!