Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

About Me Updated & Thoughts on More Children February 6, 2010

Filed under: baby,blogging,children,Christianity,family,health,middleaged,moms,women — middleagedmom @ 10:15 pm

I thought it was about time to update my About Me page. I realized that I wrote that a while ago. I can’t believe how much has changed since I first started this blog, especially going from a mother of 1 child to a mother of 2 children.

On a related note, one of my girlfriends recently asked me if I wanted to have another child. I told her yes but that I didn’t want to become pregnant again because I didn’t think my body could handle it. I mean seriously being closer to the back end of my 40’s has really taken a toll on my body. When I look at photos of me just 4 years ago, I can’t believe how much white hair I have now. That just blows me away! I don’t even mean the changes in my outward appearance. I really mean the changes in my health.

So, I do not plan to get pregnant again. If there is a possibility in the future, I would love to adopt a baby boy. I’ve always loved the idea of adoption. One of the biggest drawbacks to adoption is the cost.

If you have an adoption story, I’d love to hear about it. Please share.

For now, I’ll leave it all in God’s hands… the best place to be.


Small Talk Six – Dream Jobs September 5, 2009

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Today’s topic is “6 jobs you think would be a blast to have.” You can answer this with a list of 6 words, 6 phrases, 6 sentences, 6 paragraphs, 6 photos, 6 videos, etc . . .

Want to join in?  Go here to learn how and  to view the weekly list Small Talk Six topics for 2009.



Here’s my list (in random order):

1. A restaurant reviewer (Can you say “delicious” with your mouth full?).

2. An animal shelter owner.

3. A travel editor with a huge budget.

4. A matchmaker.

5. A toy buyer or a toy tester.


Photoshop Practice August 13, 2009

So here’s another photo that I used to practice more Photoshop techniques. I use Adobe Photoshop Elements 7.

In this photo, I used adjustment layers and blending modes. I also added this cute frame that I got for free online. Sorry that it’s a little blurry. I think I forgot to adjust the resolution.

photoshop practice

If you’re interested in getting this frame, it’s from kimi creations. She’s got great free stuff for digital scrapbooking. Make sure you sign up for her feed so you can get the freebies while they last. She only posts them for a limited time. Enjoy!


Facebook Tips August 3, 2009

If you’re interested in learning a few tips/tricks for Facebook, check out this link

It shares 20 Facebook Tips and Tricks, such as:

  • How to Create a Photo Collage Using Pictures of Your Facebook Friends.
  • How to Download Facebook Photo Albums
  • How to Remove Facebook Advertisements

Some of these are apps and others are some little known features about Facebook. As with anything else, be smart and safe when doing anything online.

By the way, I just heard about the “guilt-trip” Facebook gives people when they try to deactivate your account. Apparently, Facebook will show you 5 photos of your friends and often it is a picture with you in it. Then on each photo it tells you, “your friend’s name will miss you”. Trying to tug at your heartstrings? Would it work on you? Read more here.

Oh, if you’re interested in keeping your photos out of Facebook Ads (yes, they may be used without you knowing it), read this!


Princess’s Potty Training Progress July 14, 2009

Warning: This post may contain graphic information pertaining to potty training. Be warned!

Okay, so we had a late start potty training with Princess but it’s going so well that I’m happy we waited.

It’s not like we didn’t try earlier. We did. Princess would have none of it. We got her the potty dvd and the Baby Bjorn potty. She like both of them but it didn’t encourage her to go to the potty. I even got her some really cute undies from Gymboree but she still wasn’t interested.

Then about 6 months ago, we finally decided we needed her to get on the potty. So Mr. MaD go her a Baby Bjorn potty trainer. At first, she didn’t want to sit on it. Then I had the answer! Yes, it’s called bribery! I grabbed the container of Trader Joe’s organic lollipops that a friend gave us and I offered it to Princess. That did it! She sat on the potty. That’s about all she did. Sit. After a few weeks of sitting with lollipops and drinking milk or juice on the potty, she finally decided she could use the bathroom. We were so happy and we praised her like crazy!

From that point on, we made every effort to take her to the potty at regular times. Then a few times we offered her undies. She wore them a few times but had accidents. Then she didn’t want anything to do with them. Every time we asked her to put on undies, she refused.

Then last week Wednesday her preschool teacher said that Princess was staying dry in her pull ups. She was even dry at nap time for the most part. Her suggestion was to have Princess start coming to school in undies. Whew! I couldn’t believe it. So on Wednesday night I brought out all her undies and told her that she was going to wear one to school the next day. At first she said, “no” but then I hyped up how cute the undies were. I asked her to pick the one she wanted to wear to school. She picked the purple one.

The next morning (Thursday) she put on the undie without any fussing. I sent her to school with 3 extra undies. I was so anxious to see how she did. When she came home from school, I saw her in her extra clothes and I saw Mr. MaD carrying her dirty clothes in a plastic bag. Mr. MaD informed me that she had only 1 accident after nap time. What? I couldn’t believe it. My heart jumped for joy and I couldn’t stop praising her. My little Princess was growing up.

Over the next few days, she only had 1 or 2 little accidents. At home, we continue to ask her if she has to go to the potty at regular intervals and when we see her tugging at her undies. The great part is that she has started to say that she has to go to the potty and gets up and walks toward the bathroom. I am so very proud of her.  We’ve been praising her like crazy!

There are a couple of areas that she still needs encouragement with. She is terribly afraid of the adult sized toilets. At preschool, they have child sized toilets and at home we use the potty trainer. This weekend we went to the mall and I took Princess to the potty. She was so afraid of the toilet that she was clinging on to me for dear life. I carried her on the toilet and held on to her. She clung on the whole time.  I praised her for going on the “big” toilet. 

She is also afraid to poop on the potty. Since she has worn undies, she hasn’t pooped in them. We’ve been able to get her to the potty when she shows signs that she needs to go. Then she sits on the potty for a very long time. I can tell that she is hesitant. Then when she’s done, she doesn’t want to come off. I have to tell her that she did a great job and tell her I’ll help her get off. After she’s done and clean, she refuses to look into the toilet. She doesn’t want to flush it either. She will only look and say goodbye to her poop after I flush it and the lid is down.

I remind myself that she has progressed so far in this 1 week. I think she’s done incredibly well. I mean she only had 2-3 accidents. That’s amazing to me!

I am a proud parent! I do think that things wouldn’t have been so smooth had we forced her to potty train earlier. I believe that Princess had to be ready to do it. I am also glad that she attends a preschool that is willing to let children potty train when they are developmentally ready instead of forcing them to do it when they can’t.

I don’t think there’s such a thing as overpraising! I am always willing to give praise when it’s well deserved. I’m happy. More importantly, Princess is happy!

P.S. I’m sure one day in the future Princess will be so mad at me that I posted about her potty training. I’ll remind her that it’s all part of growing up. Okay, maybe not the part about sharing her progress for the whole world to see.


Took the Facebook Plunge! July 13, 2009

Filed under: blogging,family,friends,middleaged,social media,women — middleagedmom @ 4:53 pm

I finally did it! I joined Facebook.

I was holding out for a long time because I didn’t want to add another thing to my already overloaded plate. Not to mention that all this social media stuff can get a little addicting.  I mean blogging takes up a lot of time in itself.

So why did I do it? Well, an old friend sent me an invitation. Simple as that. I figured I would just join to talk to him and possibly some other people who I haven’t kept in touch with in ages.

After joining, I added him as a friend. Then I did a search to find some other friends. Interestingly enough, I didn’t find as many people as I thought I would or maybe they are using different names, esp. women. I actually tried to look for a few friends from middle school but I couldn’t find them on Facebook. Facebook also has this feature where you can add an alternate name. I think it’s especially good for married women so that you can add your maiden name. That way old friends can find you.

As of today, I have 3 Facebook friends. One of them is my cousin. Isn’t that too funny! I promise I have more friends IRL.


Small Talk Six: DIY Proud June 13, 2009

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Today’s topic is “6 things you’ve made during your lifetime that you were proud of (can be a craft, a dish, . . . anything).” You can answer this with a list of 6 words, 6 phrases, 6 sentences, 6 paragraphs, 6 photos, 6 videos, etc . . .


Here are my 6:

  1. When I moved into my 1st apartment I decided to repaint my old dresser and nightstand. (It was originally pink and white.) I painted it a pale green with accents of purple and white. I also added drawer pulls/knobs.
  2. I made the favors for both of my daughter’s 1st birthday parties. Over 100 favors  for each party baked by me! Oldest daughter got mini banana bread favors. Youngest daughter got double chocolate chip cookies (3 per box) favors.
  3. I stenciled a floral border around the space bedroom when we moved into our house. My first attempt at stenciling.
  4. A few years ago I made Nick Malgieri’s molten chocolate cakes (individual) with raspberry coulis. Yum! Sadly, I’ve never made it again. 
  5. Every year (for approx. the past 10 years) I’ve made my own handmade Christmas cards.
  6. For 2 Christmases, I made handmade calendars for approx. 10 people. Each month’s page was paper crafted and December even included stitchery.