Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Nemo Is In the House January 15, 2010

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Baby recently celebrated a birthday. We decided to get her a Nemo themed cake since we couldnt’ get Minnie Mouse. Actually, it probably turned out better since Baby likes Nemo and one of her favorite field trips is the Aquarium. Here’s the cake. Both Baby and Princess love the little squirt toys on top of the cake.

As it turns out, she got a late Christmas gift that was ocean themed too. It was a Crayola Activity Kit called Undersea Adventures. It’s like a game with an interactive DVD and 3 coloring books and 3 packs of crayons. I’ve never seen it before but it came in handy since Princess decided that she likes that present too.

That same friend gifted Baby with a Nemo Activity Kit from a recent trip to Disneyland. Baby was so excited that she opened it as soon as she got home from visiting with her friend. She has asked me everyday to use that kit. By the way, so has Princess!


Happy New Year! January 5, 2010

Hello World!

Happy 2010 to all of you! I can’t believe it’s already another year. I can’t believe it’s been a decade since Y2K.

I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season. Ours flew by with all the busy-ness of Christmas and New Years. For some reason it seems as if we had a lot of dinners and parties to attend. It felt like we were hardly ever home! I think my girls thought it was normal to go out every night.

Here are some photo from the holidays.

Gingerbread house making with the 2 girls…fun, fun, fun. Princess was really into tasting the candies this year.

The final product. Princess on the left and Baby on the right. Mr. MaD helped Baby do her gingerbread house. 

Here is the gingerbread house that Princess made in school. Mr. MaD said she could pick out her gingerbread house on the shelf among all the others without seeing her name on the plate.

And the stockings were hung…but not by the chimney.  They are hung out of reach of the girls.

This year Princess was so into this nutcracker. It’s the biggest of the 3 nutcrackers that I usually put up. After she saw the Wonderpets Save the Nutcracker DVD, she couldn’t stop playing with this.

Here are the goodie bags I made for Princess’s preschool classmates. Contents: Book, Scented Stickers, Pencil, and Trader Joe Organic lollipops.

Baking this year took a backseat to my sewing projects. Here are the cookies that finally got baked for the neighbors. This year it was chocolate chip and snickerdoodle blondies.

Isn’t this Christmas tree beautiful? It’s not traditional but it’s so pretty. I can’t claim it since it isn’t mine. It belongs to Mr. MaD’s cousin. We attended a Christmas party at her house.  I want this tree!

And last but not least…my all time favorite drink of the season!  Starbuck’s Gingerbreat latte! Mr. MaD surprised me one night while I was wrapping presents. He even got me a larger size than normal. What a treat!

I really hope you all enjoyed your holiday season. Most importantly, I hope you took time to remember the real reason we celebrate Christmas…the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

May God bless you and your family in 2010!

P.S. I hope to post more since the holidays are over.


Facebook…to friend or not to friend? November 2, 2009

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One of the biggest dilemmas for me when it comes to Facebook is whether to add a “friend” or not.

Recently, I received a friend request and I’ve been wondering if I should accept it or not.

The funny thing about social media…it’s really all about being sociable. Sometimes it means being sociable even with those who you don’t necessarily choose to be social with IRL. Twitter is a perfect example of this. Since you only share snippets of information at any one time, it’s still not really personal if you don’t want it to be.

On the other hand, Facebook tends to get more personal especially if you post pictures of yourself and your family and friends. The posts are usually about your personal life. The prompt FB uses (share) implies that you are  willing to and enjoy sharing information with others.

So what do you do when you don’t really want to share that information with certain people? What do you do if someone sends you a friend request? Do you ignore it? How long will you ignore it?

Does ignoring it mean that you don’t like the person? What does the person think if you don’t accept it right away? Up until recently I was only sending friend requests to certain people who I felt comfortable sharing my personal life with. If I received a friend request it was usually someone who I pretty much kept in contact with IRL.

This recent request came from someone who I knew a long time ago but haven’t seen or spoken to in many years. I think they found me through a mutual friend on FB. Hmmm…does that mean this person wants to reconnect? Wants to be “friends” again?

So, what do you do when you get a friend request and you’re not sure if you should accept it? Tell me why you’re hesitant to accept it and why you did or didn’t accept it. I want to hear from you!


What My Mother Taught Me About Integrity September 5, 2009

(Note: This post was supposed to be published yesterday.)

This morning I happened to be watching a The Early Show about a woman who lied on her resume to get a job. She was not a college graduate but she said she was. Although she probably had a “good” reason for lying (threats that she would lose custody of her daughter), she didn’t think of the consequences. In fact, she said she tried to forget about it. She ended up losing a marriage and her job at a bank. To this day she claims that her loss of integrity really affected her. She says that she is still working on getting her integrity back.

She says (about lying to get a job):

“You’ll lose your integrity, you’ll lose friends, god forbid family along the way,” she said. “You’ll always have an Achilles heel that you can be taken down at any moment and no one wants to live like that.”

So what is integrity?

According to the online dictionary:

Integrity means “steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.”

I attribute much of my integrity to my mother. As a child, I remember my mother being almost ultra-aware of doing what is right vs. doing what is wrong. She constantly reminded us to do the “right” thing. I don’t remember her teaching of integrity as being enforced by discipline as much as being taught through example. She never said that if we lie or cheat we would get in trouble. Or if we lie and cheat, we would go to hell. I think her argument always centered around the idea that we shouldn’t treat others badly, esp. because we wouldn’t like it if someone treated us badly.

These morals and ethics were not a product of her belief in God. You see, when I was a child, we did not attend Church. God was not really present in our lives. Even so, my mother would let us study with our aunt who was a Jehovah’s Witness. I never really asked her why. I think at the time she thought it would be good for us.

If you ask her today, she will probably say that her sense of moral and ethical code came from her attendance at Sunday school with a girlfriend when she was a child.

One of the clearest examples that is burned into my memory is her insistence that we never lie about our age to get an advantage. For example, if we were paying admission to some place we would never be encouraged or allowed to lie about our age in order to get a discount.

Another example is her insistence that we never take advantage of a situation where we might profit from someone else’s loss. IRL…if we ever were undercharged at a grocery store or given extra change, we would always go back to the store to return the change or pay the correct amount for out items.

She also taught us to never belittle or make fun of someone who was less fortunate than us. We should always try to treat people with respect and dignity. I think that probably came from personal experience since my mother has been disabled for many year by a debilitating disease.

To this day, I still adhere to these same ethics and morals.  I won’t lie to take advantage of a situation. I discourage others from doing the same thing, esp. mothers trying to get discounts based on their children’s ages. I also don’t believe in taking something that doesn’t belong to you (stealing?). Prior to Princess’s birth, friends told us we should take the receiving blanket that they used at the hospital because it was perfect for swaddling. After her birth, we asked hospital personnel if we could take the blanket home. They said, “no”. So we did not take the blanket or anything else (the little shirt) that they said had to stay.

I could never understand how people could be happy when they got away with some kind of financial gain at someone else’s expense. I remember once when a girlfriend of mine said she paid X amount for something and I informed her that it was the wrong price. She was excited that she got a deal even if it was by mistake. She did not feel any sense of remorse or did not feel that she should correct the situation.

I”m not saying that I’m perfect. I’m far from it…as evidenced by numerous posts on this blog. I’m not trying to stand on my soapbox and preach to anyone else either. I’m sure I’ve made ignorant mistakes too. But, if I am aware of something then I can not claim ignorance.

So, I try my very best to have integrity in all situations. I hope that as a parent I can teach the same lessons about integrity that my mother taught me. If they at least learn how to live with integrity, I think it will help guide them throughout life and make them proud of themselves. I know that I will definitely be proud of them.


Facebook Tips August 3, 2009

If you’re interested in learning a few tips/tricks for Facebook, check out this link

It shares 20 Facebook Tips and Tricks, such as:

  • How to Create a Photo Collage Using Pictures of Your Facebook Friends.
  • How to Download Facebook Photo Albums
  • How to Remove Facebook Advertisements

Some of these are apps and others are some little known features about Facebook. As with anything else, be smart and safe when doing anything online.

By the way, I just heard about the “guilt-trip” Facebook gives people when they try to deactivate your account. Apparently, Facebook will show you 5 photos of your friends and often it is a picture with you in it. Then on each photo it tells you, “your friend’s name will miss you”. Trying to tug at your heartstrings? Would it work on you? Read more here.

Oh, if you’re interested in keeping your photos out of Facebook Ads (yes, they may be used without you knowing it), read this!


Took the Facebook Plunge! July 13, 2009

Filed under: blogging,family,friends,middleaged,social media,women — middleagedmom @ 4:53 pm

I finally did it! I joined Facebook.

I was holding out for a long time because I didn’t want to add another thing to my already overloaded plate. Not to mention that all this social media stuff can get a little addicting.  I mean blogging takes up a lot of time in itself.

So why did I do it? Well, an old friend sent me an invitation. Simple as that. I figured I would just join to talk to him and possibly some other people who I haven’t kept in touch with in ages.

After joining, I added him as a friend. Then I did a search to find some other friends. Interestingly enough, I didn’t find as many people as I thought I would or maybe they are using different names, esp. women. I actually tried to look for a few friends from middle school but I couldn’t find them on Facebook. Facebook also has this feature where you can add an alternate name. I think it’s especially good for married women so that you can add your maiden name. That way old friends can find you.

As of today, I have 3 Facebook friends. One of them is my cousin. Isn’t that too funny! I promise I have more friends IRL.