Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Time flies…Life changes! October 18, 2010

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Wow…the last time I posted was back in May?

It’s been 5 months since I last stopped here. I have been reading some blogs here and there along the way but haven’t had the time or energy to post.

So here’s a quick update on what’s new:

  • My two girls are now in school.
  • I’m no longer at SAHM.
  • I work part-time until January when I go back to work full-time.
  • My oldest daughter was recently diagnosed with autism.

I thought I was busy before but I am really busy now. I find myself constantly seeking time to myself…wanting to sew or scrapbook, or even watch a favorite TV show from time to time. Instead, my life is filled with taking care of the girls, taking care of the house, work, researching autism on the internet. Oh, and did I mention being an advocate for my daughter since she is now receiving Special Education services in Kindergarten.

I have a lot to share but it will have to wait.

I can’t believe it’s already the end of October! I’m planning for some sewing projects.  Now I need to find the time to sew!

Be back soon!

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Why I’m So Exhausted February 26, 2010

I am exhausted! Let me say it again. I am exhausted!

You would think I had a newborn in the house…no I don’t.  It’s just my Baby. I’m referring to my toddler who refuses to sleep on her own.

For the past week, she has decided that she does not want to sleep without her mommy. Sometimes, even her daddy. This isn’t the first time this has happened. In fact, about a month ago, we went through this same thing for almost 2 weeks.

Baby is a good sleeper for the most part. We have a routine for naptime and bedtime. After I read her favorite book, I put her down in her crib and tell her I love her and I say goodnight. Then I leave the room. She is awake when I leave the room and she puts herself to sleep.

Often when I tell people about her sleeping habits, they’re amazed that she can sleep on her own. I was always happy and grateful for that.

Now, I am utterly exhausted and frustrated. I am literally at my wit’s end about what to do and how to handle it.

This is her usual routine now. We still do our same naptime and bedtime routine except that when I put her down in her crib she starts crying and stands up. I still tell her I love her and goodnight then I leave the room. She then continues to cry after I leave. The crying escalates to screams. She calls me and her daddy. She asks us to take her down from her crib. This usually goes on for at least 30 minutes. She may quiet down for a little while, maybe 5 minutes. Then it starts again.

In fact right now, she is crying and screaming, “mommy and daddy”! She has been crying for the last 45 minutes or so. Today she fell asleep on the way home from the store. I put her down in the crib while she was partially awake. (She woke up when I took her out of the car seat). After about an hour, she woke up screaming and crying for me.

So, this may not seem strange but her usual naptime lasts 2-3 hours. Not too mention that she only had a 15 minute nap yesterday because of all this crying and screaming. Last night, she had an interrupted sleep due to her crying and screaming episode that happened about 3 hours into her sleep.

I’ve tried so many things but all have seemed to fail. I guess maybe I should keep a sleep log which I haven’t done. I have tried other techniques from  Dr. Weissbluth’s book, “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”.

So now what should I do?

  • Keep a sleep log
  • Reread “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”, especially the chapter pertinent to my child’s age
  • Search the internet for helpful advice
  • Be patient, persistent, and consistent
  • Pray often!

I think that hardest part will be having patience. With my second child, I seem to be less patient. Maybe it’s because Baby is so different than Princess when it comes to sleep issues. I know people say you shouldn’t compare but it’s so hard since my frame of reference is from my sleep training experience with Princess. Then I again, I have to attribute some of my impatience with my age. I mean now that I’m older (remember closer to 1/2 a century than not) I can’t tolerate lack of sleep as much as I could when I only had 1 child.

So, what’s a middleaged mom to do?

PRAY!

 

About Me Updated & Thoughts on More Children February 6, 2010

Filed under: baby,blogging,children,Christianity,family,health,middleaged,moms,women — middleagedmom @ 10:15 pm
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I thought it was about time to update my About Me page. I realized that I wrote that a while ago. I can’t believe how much has changed since I first started this blog, especially going from a mother of 1 child to a mother of 2 children.

On a related note, one of my girlfriends recently asked me if I wanted to have another child. I told her yes but that I didn’t want to become pregnant again because I didn’t think my body could handle it. I mean seriously being closer to the back end of my 40’s has really taken a toll on my body. When I look at photos of me just 4 years ago, I can’t believe how much white hair I have now. That just blows me away! I don’t even mean the changes in my outward appearance. I really mean the changes in my health.

So, I do not plan to get pregnant again. If there is a possibility in the future, I would love to adopt a baby boy. I’ve always loved the idea of adoption. One of the biggest drawbacks to adoption is the cost.

If you have an adoption story, I’d love to hear about it. Please share.

For now, I’ll leave it all in God’s hands… the best place to be.

 

Finally Sewing for My Girls January 13, 2010

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I finally started some sewing projects for my girls.

The first thing on my list are these pillows using the Brown Bear fabric. I only purchased 1 yard of this fabric since it was pretty expensive. I decided to use a pre-quilted fabric for the back. One for each of the girls. Now, I need to  stuff them and sew them closed.

Finally, my girls will get something that I sewed for them. Princess is always curious about all the other things I’ve sewn. She likes to looks at my projects but I always have to tell her that it’s not for her. Now, she will get a pillow of her own.

I’ll post a picture when I’m finally done. Now, I have to start on a birthday present for Baby’s friend who is turning 2 on Valentine’s Day.

 

Can’t Get Enough of Brown Bear November 9, 2009

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My children love the book Brown Bear, Brown Bear What Do You See? by Bill Martin Jr. and Eric Carle. They enjoy reading it and having it read to them.

Before naps and at night, Baby picks up her Brown Bear board book and takes it to her room.

The girls also enjoy reading and retelling the story with their Brown Bear flannel board animals.

brown bear animals

Then I found this!

brown bear fabrics

Aren’t these fabrics cute? Well, I decided to use them to make a blanket and pillow for both girls. I’m so excited and I hope they will be too!

I’ll post some pictures when I’m done with the pillows and blankets.

 

It’s Pumpkin Carving Time! October 30, 2009

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We finally decided to carve the pumpkins that we picked at the pumpkin patch. We had to do it early since one of the pumpkins had a little bruised spot that looked like it was going to rot soon.

So here’s our first attempt at carving pumpkins for our family. I hope you get a good laugh out of  my lack of artistic ability.

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We decided not to save the pumpkin seeds this time…maybe next year we can.

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Princess said she wanted a “happy face” on her pumpkin. I was to lazy to make teeth for the smile. That’ll have to wait until next year too.

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Putting the candle in wasn’t too easy since I didn’t cut a big enough opening on top…oh well, it worked anyway.

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All lit up in the dark…so cool! The girls loved it!

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Princess said she wanted Baby’s pumpkin (the oblong one) to have a sad face. Hmmm…I wonder why? Mr. MaD said we should do this instead.

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Happy Halloween from our family to yours!

 

New Strategy for Princess September 25, 2009

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Recently Princess has decided to demonstrate her independence at home and at school.

Translation: She wants to do what she wants when she wants to.

Princess has always been pretty easy to discipline. She usually complies with our rules and expectations. Then all of a sudden (over the last 2 weeks) she’s been saying “NO” to almost everything. Along with the “NO” comes the whining and the fussing.

Mr. MaD and I were like, “What the heck is going on?”

Last week when I picked her up from school I told her teacher about the change in her behavior. She said that she noticed that Princess said “NO” to her that same day. I explained that I didn’t know where all of this was coming from. Then she told me that she thinks Princess has learned it from another student in class who says, “NO” and talks back with a “potty” mouth.

My first thought was “Just great! Princess has to follow the student who has inappropriate behavior!” I guess that comes along with territory when you send your child to preschool.

In the last 2 days, Princess has decided to “step it up a notch” at school. She has decided that she does not have to sit at Circle Time. Instead, she walks around or plays around. During nap time, she doesn’t sleep. Instead, she talks, laughs, or walks around. The teacher has tried putting her on time out but Princess has decided that she doesn’t need a time out. 

When I received her daily report for the last 2 days, I was so upset and frustrated. We’ve talked to Princess about her behavior. We tell her our expectations every day before she goes to school. Mr. MaD reminds her again when he drops her off. When we asked her what she is supposed to do, she can tell us.

So last night I told Mr. MaD that whatever we (teacher and us) are doing is not working for Princess. For some reason, the time out is not working at school. I think it wasn’t the right motivation.

After rereading some of the 1-2-3 Magic book, I decided we needed to use a strategy for what is referred to as a Start behavior.

So…I decided to make Princess a goal sheet. Something very simple and focused on  the 2 areas that she is struggling with. I made it for one day just to see if it would work. I decided that her reward would be playing an online game on the computer when she gets home from school.

What a difference a day and a reward makes! Today, Princess sat nicely in Circle Time with her hands in her lap and she even participated. Then a nap time she slept. Wow! I was so proud of her. I could tell that she was proud of herself too.

She was very excited to play the Curious George game on the computer. (By the way, it’s for the PBS site.)

I sure hope this works again tomorrow! If not, I don’t know what I’ll do next.

Any suggestions?

Here’s a sample of the Goal Sheet.

goal sheet