Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Random Thoughts in May 2010 May 8, 2010

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Lately, I’ve been thinking…

  • I’m not ashamed that I buy clothes at Ross and Target. (Did I mention that I “heart” Target?”)
  • I have way to much paper stuff!
  • I think it’s funny that someone mentioned that I must be an organized person. Then asked if I have a desk.
  • My idea of “ME” time is time to myself to do what I enjoy…scrapbooking, sewing, reading, crafting, watching TV, or napping.
  • “Girls Night Out” does not constitute “ME” time in my world.
  • It’s so much easier to be friends with someone who has similarities with your life, hobbies, morals, values, and world view. ( I mean similarities NOT exactly the same!”)
  • It is MAJOR stress when your child has to have surgery…even if it’s outpatient.
  • Why are so many moms all about competition?
  • Technology is not always a good thing, esp. when you’re at play group or the children’s museum and the majority of moms are either texting or talking on their phones.
  • I am so grateful to have a car and be able to drive it around.
  • I am so grateful to have a roof over my head that I can call HOME.
  • Looking at pictures of my girls as babies, makes me want to have another baby.
  • I need time to choose the pictures I want to use for my Week In The Life Project.
  • I am excited that I found baseball card page protectors at Target.
  • I’m still trying to find a good way to organize my daughter’s school papers and artwork.
  • I really want to get a massage and a manicure.
  • I’m thinking abount investing in 10-Minute Trainer by Tony Horton.
  • I am disappointed that I let myself gain weight in the last year.
  • I really need to make it a point to “invest” in my friendships rather than think they’ll always be around.
  • I’m not excited to be going back to work in the Fall, even if it’s on-call/part-time.
  • My Baby girls makes me laugh with her silly behavior and sometimes even with her strong-willed nature.
  • I loved my daughter’s preschool Mother’s Day activity yesterday. She made me so proud.
  • Having my girls has changed me…hopefully for the better.
  • I am thinking about a vacation to Disneyland in the next couple years.
  • My preschooler made me laugh when she practiced her graduation speech and said she wanted to be a fire fighter when she grows up. ( I think she copied someone else) I tried to remind her that she said she wanted to be a doctor but she insisted on fire fighter.
 

My Car March 2, 2010

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I really like my car.

I have a van.

Sadly, my car is out of commission. It’s in the service department getting reparied. A  couple of months ago, during a service appointment, we found out that there was a leak from somewhere. Since the van is still under warranty, we definitely wanted it fixed. We took it in for a repair appointment about a month ago. Unfortunately, they were unable to find the leak so we were asked to make another appointment because they needed to remove the whole trasmission to find the leak.

Translation – It will take more than 1 day to repair your van.

Today I receive a phone call from the service department informing me that the car will be in repair for at least 1 more day. What’s taking so long? Well, they did find the leak.

Now, it’s just the warranty that’s the problem. Well, it’s the warranty department that is. We have to wait and see if the warranty department will cover a new transmission or if we are only allowed to get a refurbished/rebuilt transmission.

Okay, am I the only one wondering what the problem is with that?

We purchased the van a mere 6 months ago. Now, there’s a leak that requires us to get another transmission. The problem was NOT caused by us.

Hmmm….shouldn’t we be able to get a NEW transmission?

Frankly, I can’t even believe there’s a questions as to whether the warranty covers a new transmission. I mean really, why do they even offer warranties? It’s almost a joke!

Wondering what company I’m talking about?  Take a guess.

P.S. I’ll let you know after we find out if we qualify for a new transmission or not. I may have more to say.

 

Merry Christmas! December 24, 2009

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Wishing you and your family a Very Merry Christmas!

 

Facebook…to friend or not to friend? November 2, 2009

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One of the biggest dilemmas for me when it comes to Facebook is whether to add a “friend” or not.

Recently, I received a friend request and I’ve been wondering if I should accept it or not.

The funny thing about social media…it’s really all about being sociable. Sometimes it means being sociable even with those who you don’t necessarily choose to be social with IRL. Twitter is a perfect example of this. Since you only share snippets of information at any one time, it’s still not really personal if you don’t want it to be.

On the other hand, Facebook tends to get more personal especially if you post pictures of yourself and your family and friends. The posts are usually about your personal life. The prompt FB uses (share) implies that you are  willing to and enjoy sharing information with others.

So what do you do when you don’t really want to share that information with certain people? What do you do if someone sends you a friend request? Do you ignore it? How long will you ignore it?

Does ignoring it mean that you don’t like the person? What does the person think if you don’t accept it right away? Up until recently I was only sending friend requests to certain people who I felt comfortable sharing my personal life with. If I received a friend request it was usually someone who I pretty much kept in contact with IRL.

This recent request came from someone who I knew a long time ago but haven’t seen or spoken to in many years. I think they found me through a mutual friend on FB. Hmmm…does that mean this person wants to reconnect? Wants to be “friends” again?

So, what do you do when you get a friend request and you’re not sure if you should accept it? Tell me why you’re hesitant to accept it and why you did or didn’t accept it. I want to hear from you!

 

Speaking of Bath Time September 23, 2009

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Did you hear about this? It’s absurd.

I can’t believe that some innocent photos could lead to such disruption in a family. I know many families who have photos of their children taking a bath or playing in the bath. It’s a big deal, especially with your first child and their first bath. I mean we even have a photo of Princess getting her first “bath” in the hospital after being born.

If you’re a scrapbooker, then you know that many scrapbooking products for baby pages include a bath time item…a sticker, an embellishment, a template, etc. Why do you suppose companies make them? It’s because bath time is a milestone for most children, esp. their first bath as an infant and then later as they graduate to the big tub. It’s also usually a fun time for toddlers and children when they realize it’s just like water play.

The thing that bugs me the most about this story is that it got so out of control. First off, why did the Wal-Mart employee even report it? Secondly, why did the police even make a case out of it? Didn’t they even do a little investigation before charging the parents and taking away the children? I can’t believe the state of Arizona could even spend the time and money on this family.

Don’t they have better more important things to do…like catch some real sex offenders?

The mother got suspended from her job for a year. The children got taken away for one month! The parents are now on a sex offender registry. That is simply ridiculous! Supposedly Wal-Mart settled out of court but it’s too late. The family is scarred for life, especially the children. Frankly, no amount of money is going to give them back the life they had as they knew it.

It really upsets me when I hear stories about real sex offenders out in the community breaking the law (Jaycee Dugard kidnapping) and re-offending.

Are we getting so paranoid that we are willing to subject innocent people to such hardship? I believe in being cautious but I also believe in being rationale.

 

Wordless Wednesday September 16, 2009

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flamingo love

 

Will the Real Belly Please Stand Up? August 28, 2009

Filed under: family,health,middleaged,moms,random thoughts,women — middleagedmom @ 10:22 am
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OMG! Have you seen the picture of the woman posing in her underwear with her real belly…pooch and all? It’s  was featured in an issue of  Glamour magazine. There’s been a lot of buzz about it.  Check it out here.

I just saw her this week on a morning talk show. She actually looks great! She is supposedly a size 12 (average in US). You know how they say that TV adds something like 10 pounds to you? Well, she doesn’t even look like it. She is 20 years old and has never had children.

Many women (and some men)  have been talking about how it’s great to see a “real” woman in a fashion magazine. Others (men and women) are complaining that she’s fat and doesn’t belong in a magazine.

One thing that I find strange about all of this is how many women are so judgmental of this 20 year old model and her body. I wish women would be more supportive of other women. Why can’t women celebrate other women? A lot of the women that don’t like her appearance are complaining about how she should exercise and eat better. They are comparing her to themselves. It reminds me of  the Mommy Wars, the “fight” against working moms and stay at home moms. Why? Why are women “fighting” with other women?

I think she looks great in her underwear and in her street clothes. Hooray to Glamour Magazine for having the courage to put her in the magazine in the first place. The editor of Glamour was also on the morning talk show and she said that the response to the article was amazing and mostly positive. She also claims that her magazine has been changed because of the article and the response.

Being a mom of 2 girls, I sure hope there are some changes, both in media and in women.