Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Week in the Life Project April 22, 2010

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I know I’ve been gone for so long…let’s face it blogging takes a lot of time. The dowloading of pictures from the camera then the uploading of pictures to the blog. Then there’s the writing…even the thinking about the writing takes time.

So, I’ve decided to try my hand at Ali Edward’s Week In The Life Project. I figured that since it is only one week, I may be able to accomplish it. The hardest part is remembering to take pictures. It’s not like you’re at an event or it’s a special occasion. I mean just remembering to take pictures of breakfast or the mail or my chores can seem daunting. Then there’s the writing or at least note taking to keep track of what happened that day. I must say the writing is a little time consuming. I think it would have been easier if I had gotten myself organized ahead of time but I didn’t. Doing this project just happened at the spur of the moment. In fact, I started a day late so for me today (Thursday) is my third day.

Oh, taking pictures of myself is another challenge since I’m usually the one behind the camera.

 Here are 2 pictures from yesterday. Seems mudane but it’s part of the process of capturing your everday life.

Some yummy iced tea in the stroller cup holder. Even Baby wanted to try some.

I usually keep these books in the car to occupy Baby when she’s fussing. But she insisted she wanted to bring them into the house. Then as soon as we get in the house she dumps them of the floor and runs to something else!  (Sorry about the flash…I should’ve turned it off)

Okay, I really do have more stuff to post and share. I just have to make the time to do it. I’ll try and do better. See you all soon.

Please share if you’re participating in the Week in the Life project.

 

Why I’m So Exhausted February 26, 2010

I am exhausted! Let me say it again. I am exhausted!

You would think I had a newborn in the house…no I don’t.  It’s just my Baby. I’m referring to my toddler who refuses to sleep on her own.

For the past week, she has decided that she does not want to sleep without her mommy. Sometimes, even her daddy. This isn’t the first time this has happened. In fact, about a month ago, we went through this same thing for almost 2 weeks.

Baby is a good sleeper for the most part. We have a routine for naptime and bedtime. After I read her favorite book, I put her down in her crib and tell her I love her and I say goodnight. Then I leave the room. She is awake when I leave the room and she puts herself to sleep.

Often when I tell people about her sleeping habits, they’re amazed that she can sleep on her own. I was always happy and grateful for that.

Now, I am utterly exhausted and frustrated. I am literally at my wit’s end about what to do and how to handle it.

This is her usual routine now. We still do our same naptime and bedtime routine except that when I put her down in her crib she starts crying and stands up. I still tell her I love her and goodnight then I leave the room. She then continues to cry after I leave. The crying escalates to screams. She calls me and her daddy. She asks us to take her down from her crib. This usually goes on for at least 30 minutes. She may quiet down for a little while, maybe 5 minutes. Then it starts again.

In fact right now, she is crying and screaming, “mommy and daddy”! She has been crying for the last 45 minutes or so. Today she fell asleep on the way home from the store. I put her down in the crib while she was partially awake. (She woke up when I took her out of the car seat). After about an hour, she woke up screaming and crying for me.

So, this may not seem strange but her usual naptime lasts 2-3 hours. Not too mention that she only had a 15 minute nap yesterday because of all this crying and screaming. Last night, she had an interrupted sleep due to her crying and screaming episode that happened about 3 hours into her sleep.

I’ve tried so many things but all have seemed to fail. I guess maybe I should keep a sleep log which I haven’t done. I have tried other techniques from  Dr. Weissbluth’s book, “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”.

So now what should I do?

  • Keep a sleep log
  • Reread “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”, especially the chapter pertinent to my child’s age
  • Search the internet for helpful advice
  • Be patient, persistent, and consistent
  • Pray often!

I think that hardest part will be having patience. With my second child, I seem to be less patient. Maybe it’s because Baby is so different than Princess when it comes to sleep issues. I know people say you shouldn’t compare but it’s so hard since my frame of reference is from my sleep training experience with Princess. Then I again, I have to attribute some of my impatience with my age. I mean now that I’m older (remember closer to 1/2 a century than not) I can’t tolerate lack of sleep as much as I could when I only had 1 child.

So, what’s a middleaged mom to do?

PRAY!

 

MYOB! September 3, 2009

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If you’re a parent, then you’ve probably experienced a child crying or screaming in a public place. It really doesn’t matter whether the child is crying because he/she is having a tantrum, tired, or just fell and scraped a knee. As a parent, you ALWAYS feel self-conscious and sometimes embarrassed.  Partly because you know that people around you are staring at you and your child.

So, what does a parent do?

I have to say that I’ve experienced this more than once. A lot of my stress during these crying episodes in public really have to do with where we are. If we are somewhere that’s quite loud or filled with lots of children, then I’m not usually as stressed about it. I’ll usually let my child cry and fuss until they settle down. It usually doesn’t last too long.

If we happen to be in a place that is quiet, then my stress level flies off the charts. Once when we were at Barnes and Noble, Baby decided that she wanted to climb and play on the “stage’ area in the Children’s section. She was actually copying her sister. The difference? When I asked Princess to stop playing , she did. When I asked Baby to stop playing, she had a little tantrum. She first started fussing and then it turned to full on crying. She refused to move away from the “stage” area so I told Mr. MaD to get her off. When he did, she decided that she should squirm around and flail her arms and legs. She did this all while still crying. I finally told Mr. MaD to take her outside until she settles down.

Now if this had happened in an airplane, I don’t know what I would do. You can’t really escape to anywhere else. Sometimes, it’s just plain inconvenient to pick up and leave. If I were in line at a grocery store and the next person to pay, I probably wouldn’t leave. I’d probably let her cry. Then I’d try to talk to her to calm her down or I’d try to distract her.

I think as parents we have a responsibility to respect other people’s feelings and personal space to a degree. If I had to take my child away from a situation/place because she is crying, I would never get anything done. Maybe that’s a little bit of an exaggeration but  you know what I mean.  I also believe that other people need to respect my personal space and my feelings. It’s easy for strangers to judge a parent’s choices and a child’s behavior. It would be nice to see a little more compassion from other people.

So what would you do if you saw/heard a child crying in a public place?

Would you be like the man in Georgia who took matters into his own hands while shopping at Wal Mart? His philosophy of life doesn’t include the idea that one should mind their own business. He decided to first tell the mother that she should make her child be quiet. When that suggestion didn’t work, he went up to the little girl and slapped her in the face approximately 4 times. Unbelievable! He was arrested for cruelty toward a minor. His comment to the mother, “See I told you I would shut her up. “

 

Do Words Have Power? August 25, 2009

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Do words have power?

You would think so. Maybe it’s just the spoken word? Apparently, the written word carries no weight. At least at my home it doesn’t.

Our home is enclosed by a fence and a 2 gates. On our main front gate we have a sign that says “No Soliciting”.  We have a smaller gate on the side of our driveway that also leads to the front door. Strangely enough, that “No Soliciting” sign might as well be written in Ancient Egyptian since people tend to ignore it.  Today, soon after I put Baby down for her nap, I hear banging on my front door. I mean banging  not a quiet gentle knock.  I happened to be on the computer in the bedroom so I peeked out the window and noticed an unfamiliar truck in the driveway. Then I hear 3 more bangs on the door so I rush to the front door hoping that Baby doesn’t wake up from the noise.

I open the window slightly and say, “Yes?”

The stranger (man) says, “I’m looking for work. Do you need someone to cut down your trees?”

I say, “No, I’m sorry but we don’t have money for that.” 

He says, “Okay.” and walks out of the gate.

First of all, I just can’t believe the number of people who enter our gate to “sell” something even if we have a sign basically saying that we’re not interested. This isn’t the first time that someone has approached our home for some yard work. I mean I understand that we are in hard economic times but I don’t appreciate the “cold calls” to my front door! Not only have we been approached for yard work, we also get religious groups like Jehovah’s Witnesses and others doing fund-raising.

Secondly, it’s a little scary being a SAHM with your child and have strangers come knocking on your door. These days you can’t trust anyone. I never open my front door to strangers. I always try to talk from the window slightly open.  I really wish I had one of those cameras by the front door with an intercom system.

Having a gate somehow gives you a false sense of security, especially since our gates don’t lock. That may be something we have to look into. I am a little hesitant about that just in case of emergency situations.

I think that thing that bothers me the most is the lack of respect by people. I would never approach a home with a “No Soliciting” sign and try to sell something. I’ve seen people come through our side gate (which is not as accessible) as the front gate…as if trying to avoid the “No Soliciting” sign on the front gate. You know the old adage, “Out of sight, out of mind.”

I’m thinking that I need to tell Mr. MaD to get a bigger “No Soliciting” sign for our gate. I think I’ll also have to put one right by the front door just in case they don’t see the one on the gate.

Has anything like this ever happened to you? What do you do in situations like this?

 

Wordless Wednesday August 5, 2009

cleanwell soapbottle

 

Adobe Photoshop Project July 24, 2009

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Here’s an Adobe Photoshop project  that I worked on. It’s part of a gift for one of Princess’s teachers. (I used Adobe Photoshop Elements 7.)

 

adobe teacher project 

I used this to add to a 5″ x 7″ solid blue background paper inside an acrylic frame to create  a post-it holder. I was fortunate to have a picture of Princess’s teacher with her son at one of the school’s events.

The background paper is created by Summer Driggs of Summertime Designs. She creates great digital scrapbooking stuff. The frame and mask are from Jessica Sprague’s class as mentioned in my earlier post.  The font for “my boy” is called karabine . The arrow journaling spot is from a kit called Sun Porch created by Amy Teets available at ShabbyPrincess. The font inside the arrow is First Grader. I’m not sure exactly where I got it from but here’s one place where you can find it.

So what do you think? I”m still learning how to use Photoshop. It’ a lot of  fun but a lot of work.  Any suggestions or comments are welcome.

If you use any of the products listed in my post, please let me know so I can see what you’ve created or link back to my post.  Enjoy!

 

Children Full of Life Video June 23, 2009

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Someone just shared with me a video on You Tube called Children Full of Life. It’s a 5 part video. (I’ve linked to the first video. A link should appear at the end of the video so you can see the subsequent ones.)

It’s an award-winning documentary filmed in Japan. It features a teacher (Toshiro Kanamori) and his 4th grade classroom. He instructs his students to write letters expressing their true emotions and has them share it in front of the class. It teaches a great lesson about caring and compassion.

Check it out. There are 5 videos. Watch them all.

It’s amazing the lesson these children learn from this assignment. This teacher is amazing too. Have some kleenex ready!

Tell me what you think.