Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Why I’m So Exhausted February 26, 2010

I am exhausted! Let me say it again. I am exhausted!

You would think I had a newborn in the house…no I don’t.  It’s just my Baby. I’m referring to my toddler who refuses to sleep on her own.

For the past week, she has decided that she does not want to sleep without her mommy. Sometimes, even her daddy. This isn’t the first time this has happened. In fact, about a month ago, we went through this same thing for almost 2 weeks.

Baby is a good sleeper for the most part. We have a routine for naptime and bedtime. After I read her favorite book, I put her down in her crib and tell her I love her and I say goodnight. Then I leave the room. She is awake when I leave the room and she puts herself to sleep.

Often when I tell people about her sleeping habits, they’re amazed that she can sleep on her own. I was always happy and grateful for that.

Now, I am utterly exhausted and frustrated. I am literally at my wit’s end about what to do and how to handle it.

This is her usual routine now. We still do our same naptime and bedtime routine except that when I put her down in her crib she starts crying and stands up. I still tell her I love her and goodnight then I leave the room. She then continues to cry after I leave. The crying escalates to screams. She calls me and her daddy. She asks us to take her down from her crib. This usually goes on for at least 30 minutes. She may quiet down for a little while, maybe 5 minutes. Then it starts again.

In fact right now, she is crying and screaming, “mommy and daddy”! She has been crying for the last 45 minutes or so. Today she fell asleep on the way home from the store. I put her down in the crib while she was partially awake. (She woke up when I took her out of the car seat). After about an hour, she woke up screaming and crying for me.

So, this may not seem strange but her usual naptime lasts 2-3 hours. Not too mention that she only had a 15 minute nap yesterday because of all this crying and screaming. Last night, she had an interrupted sleep due to her crying and screaming episode that happened about 3 hours into her sleep.

I’ve tried so many things but all have seemed to fail. I guess maybe I should keep a sleep log which I haven’t done. I have tried other techniques from  Dr. Weissbluth’s book, “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”.

So now what should I do?

  • Keep a sleep log
  • Reread “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”, especially the chapter pertinent to my child’s age
  • Search the internet for helpful advice
  • Be patient, persistent, and consistent
  • Pray often!

I think that hardest part will be having patience. With my second child, I seem to be less patient. Maybe it’s because Baby is so different than Princess when it comes to sleep issues. I know people say you shouldn’t compare but it’s so hard since my frame of reference is from my sleep training experience with Princess. Then I again, I have to attribute some of my impatience with my age. I mean now that I’m older (remember closer to 1/2 a century than not) I can’t tolerate lack of sleep as much as I could when I only had 1 child.

So, what’s a middleaged mom to do?



Weissbluth Method Blog July 9, 2009

A while ago, I wrote a post entitled Could It Be Happening? to share about Baby’s possible elimination of her morning nap. I just received a comment from Dan Weissbluth (Dr. Marc Weissbluth’s son) informing me that he has started a blog with his father.

Although the Weissbluth Method Blog does not specifically address sleep issues it does refer to sleep as it is related to other issues. The blog will not be giving out personalized medical advice (for obvious reasons). Check out the blog is you’re interested in learning more. If you really want to learn more about sleep issues in particular than you should read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth. You can read a review about the book here.

Baby’s morning naps are still inconsistent. Some days she naps in the morning for a good hour and a half (like yesterday). Other days (like today) no napping after being in the crib for 45  minutes. Then again, who wants to nap with poop in their diaper.


Half-Awake Lunch Date October 12, 2007

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Today I met my girlfriend and her 13-month old son for lunch. She was gracious enough to invite me for lunch for my recent birthday. (At this age, birthdays just seem like another day in the continuum of middle age.) I knew in advance that this would be a short and somewhat difficult lunch date.  We were scheduled to meet at 11:30am at California Pizza Kitchen. I knew there was a decent kids menu for Princess.

Prior to meeting for lunch, I had to go in to the office to turn in some paperwork for processing. Then we decided to head to the mall early (10:30am) so that Princess could “run” around and play at the toy store. By 11:15am, Princess had enough and wanted to get in her stroller and drink some milk. So we strolled around to kill some time until 11:30. At 11:30, I asked the host at CPK if we could get a seat before my girlfriend arrived. They were actually still pretty empty so we could get a table. I immediately ordered her some fruit punch. She loves juice since she hardly drinks it.  I phoned my girlfriend to let her know we had gotten a seat already. Then the fidgeting started and Princess wanted to walk around. Bad idea…CPK is not big on children walking around their restaurant. I guess that’s understandable. So I decided to order her food while we waited for my girlfried to come. About 15 minutes later, my girlfriend and her son arrived. To make a long story short, Princess barely ate her spaghetti (strange, since spaghetti is one of her favorite foods) and couldn’t stop saying, “All done.” I gulped down a few pieces of my pizza while asking the waitress to pack up Princess’s lunch. My girlfriend comments, “She seems like a picky eater.” So I said, “Actually she eats pretty well, it’s just that sometimes when we go out she doesn’t like to eat.” Then she reminds me of a previous lunch date to a dim sum restaurant. Princess barely ate when we were there. She was fidgety and she threw up all over her chair.  It’s no wonder we don’t get out much for lunch dates! So I attributed this lunch date crunch to Princess’s lack of sleep the night before.

How is it that children know when you have something to do or an appointment to get to? For some strange reason, Princess always seems to sleep poorly (either night sleep or naps) when there is somewhere to go. So last night (actually early this morning), she woke up at 4:00am. She was talking for appproximately 30 minutes. Yes, I was up also listening to the gibberish on the baby monitor. Then we fell asleep until the next “conversation” at 5:30am. Ugh! Another 30 minute monologue for her. Finally at 7:30am Princess decided to really get up for the day. I was only half asleep by then. Since I went to sleep at midnight last night, I only got in 4 straight hours of sleep…whew!

When I was pregnant with Princess, I was given a book called, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, M.D. It really is a good book and helped me deal with Princess’s sleep habits. She was never a really good sleeper but after reading this book and using some of the suggestions she did improve. Recently though, she seems to have a hard time falling asleep at night or at naps. She takes shorter naps and she’s been getting up during the night. Right now, she is still talking in her crib considering I put her down at least 30 minutes ago. One theory could be that I put her down for her nap too late and she is overtired. I just don’t know. I have to reread the book to get a better idea of what’s been going on. I know most of you know that when your child doesn’t sleep well, you don’t either!

So if this post is sounding a little tired and drawn out, it probably is because I’m half-awake! Time for some zzzzzzs!