Confessions of a Middleagedmom

surviving motherhood in the “middle ages”

Thanksgiving Blur November 27, 2007

Whew! This Thanskgiving flew by…it is just a blur now. This year we went to our in-laws for Thanksgiving dinner. I made 3 semi-homemade desserts. The first was pumpkin muffins (recipe from with store-bought cream cheese frosting. The second was apple crisp using canned apples (Comstock). The third was a chocolate bundt cake (cake mix) with homemade cocoa glaze.

Wondering why I would bake if I have gestational diabetes? Well, remember I do enjoy baking. Mr. MaD was my taste tester for the muffins and chocolate cake. Apple crisp is one of my go-to recipes so I didn’t need any taste testing for that.  My thanksgiving dinner was restricted. I limited my carbs (stuffing, mashed potatoes, yams, etc.) and I had no desserts including fruit. Yes, I was disappointed. I watched my portions and I didn’t have 2nds.  Believe me…I’m already looking forward to next Thanksgiving and the food that I will be able to eat. On a positive note, I didn’t feel that fullness that often comes with holiday meals.

Thanksgiving night was the first time Princess went to bed so late, approximately 10pm. By the time we got home and bathed, she was fussy. She didn’t want to dry her hair, she didn’t want to change her diaper, she didn’t want to do anything. The next morning she woke up around 8am and she was fussy throughout the day.

We did not go out since I was so tired and I know she was also. Instead, we sent Mr. MaD out to do some shopping. He went out early to get our new microwave on sale at Sears. He went to Old Navy and got some pjs for Princess and he attempted to visit the Disney store which ended up being so crowded that he left. Later that day he went to Comp USA to look for a deal on external hard drives. On the news we saw that Comp USA had a sale on Thanksgiving night that we didn’t know about so we thought they’d still have some good deals the next day. As it turns out the salesperson said that the better quality hard drive was not on sale but would be going on sale in the near future. Mr. MaD also made the trek to Wal-mart to pick up another Christmas present for Princess, a kitchen. It’s the new Play ‘n Learn Little Tikes Kitchen. Well, they were out of the one we wanted so he ended up getting her a Fisher Price Dora kitchen. To be honest it’s not the one I really wanted esp. since sometimes Dora’s voice irritates me. (Sorry, Dora fans) I asked Mr. MaD to turn off the talking feature on the kitchen.

As it turns out, Mr. MaD decided to put the kitchen together for Princess as her early Christmas present partly because the box was dirty and he didn’t want to store it that way. Princess loves her new kitchen. She plays with it every day. It’s the thing that she looks at as soon as she gets up in the morning. Her favorite thing is to bring the plastic pretend foods to us and ask us to eat them. So we politely eat them and say “yummy”.

On Saturday, we went to a 1st birthday party for a little boy who comes to our church. I think this was the most fun that Princess had at a birthday party. There was coloring on the fabric backpack (given as a favor), bubbles, air brush tatoos, remote control race cars, a bounce house, games, and a pony ride. The theme for the party was the movie Cars. Bubbles turned out to be one of her favorite activities along with the pony ride. Yes, she did ride the pony. It totally surprised Mr. MaD and I since she is often afraid of unfamiliar things. She couldn’t wait to get on it and she wanted to pet it and she even hugged his face. It was the cutest thing ever! She had so much fun at the party that she barely took a nap probably reliving the fun events of the day kept her too busy to sleep. (Here’s a picture of Princess with a disguise on to hide her face.)

pony ride


Airing Dirty Laundry October 26, 2007

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Mr. Mad just told me that my in-laws invited us over for Thanksgiving dinner along with my mother and my aunt and her family. The upcoming holidays has got me thinking about my dysfunctional family.

I know I’m not the only one with a dysfunctional family.  The fact is that I have a lot of friends with similar experiences. The reasons for the dysfunction vary but for the most part many of the problems arise out of money problems. Sad to say…maybe money IS the root of all evil.

In my case, there are many reasons why dysfunction exists. I do remember that when I was younger I promised myself that I would not let money get in the way of myla with my brother, esp. since I have only 1 sibling. The dysfunction really exists between my mother and one of her siblings and between my father and one of his siblings. By the way, my parents are divorced and my father is remarried and lives in another country.

Sadly, the dysfunction between my parents and their siblings has affected us (me and the cousins and our children).  How you ask? Well, ever since my grandmother passed away we have never gotten together as a family – my mom and her siblings and the children. The last time we were all together in one place was my grandmother’s memorial service. Too sad!  If we do have a “family” get together, it usually means someone is left out. I remember a comment made around the time of my grandmother’s illness. It was something like, “Once grandma dies, we won’t see each other anymore.” This is probably more true because the sibling that my mother and aunt don’t get along with lives at my grandmother’s old  house as does one of my cousins. So we rarely, if ever, see them at all. As for my dad’s side of the family, it is very similar.

I remember attending Mr. MaD’s uncle’s funeral. I had never met this uncle. Why? Well, it’s because this uncle had a falling out with Mr. MaD’s father and uncle. So, they never spoke to each other since the dreaded falling out.

The sad fact is that for most families dysfunction seems almost normal. There is hardly ever a chance for reconciliation since most people are either stubborn or unforgiving or both. Isn’t it funny how we find it so hard to forgive family members? Maybe it’s because we have higher expectations of them.  It’s easy to forget that in the end we only have 1 family. Yes, I know I have my own family now – Mr. MaD, Princess, and baby. But, I mean the extended family of parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. I wonder if things will ever change? I wonder if it will only “end” when someone passes away? That would be so very sad!

I know that at this point in time, I must let go and let God. I also know that scripture says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” (Romans 12:18) I hope and pray that my family will find reconciliation and God’s peace, for the sake of OUR children.


It’s That Time of Year Again October 24, 2007

Recently I was walking by Starbucks and noticed that their feature drink was something like pumpkin spice latte. Okay, that didn’t intrigue me but it got me thinking about what’s coming soon…gingerbread latte! Yummy! I anxiously wait each year for the day that I can visit Starbucks for one of my most favorite coffee drinks of all time. You see, I’m not a big coffee drinker to begin with but I cannot resist the deliciousness of gingerbread latte. (By the way, I have no affiliation with Starbucks. Too bad I didn’t invest earlier! Ha!)

This gingerbread latte anticipation got me thinking that the holiday season is among us already. Just the other day I noticed that the toy store in the mall was crowded with stacks of toys in the aisles and their shelves were stocked to the ceiling. Probably getting ready for the upcoming after Thanksgiving Day Sale. I also saw other holiday stores opening in the mall like the yearly personalized ornament shop.

It’s the end of October and I am already feeling anxious about the numerous things that need to get done in preparation for the upcoming holidays. The first thing on my list of things to do is to update my Christmas card mailing list. I usually do it after Christmas so that I have everyone’s address updated from their Christmas cards. But during the year, people move or I want to add other people to my list. So now is the time to update that list rather than wait until I have to print out mailing labels. Yes, I use mailing labels. I wish I had the time to hand write addresses on those envelopes but that takes too long and my handwriting gets ugly by the 20th one.

The next thing I need to do is plan what my Christmas cards will look like. Each year I make handmade Christmas cards so I need to think of something for this year. I also need to start thinking about Princess’s outfit for the Christmas picture then decide what the pose will be. The sad thing is that Princess does not like to smile for the camera any more. She had the best picture-taking smile up until about 18 months when she became super aware of the camera. Now, as soon as she hears the camera turn on she comes running toward it. I also have to plan my what my short and sweet “Christmas letter” will say. This so-called letter is only to give a snapshot of what’s been happening in our family.

Another thing that I need to start thinking about is what will I be baking for Christmas. Did I mention that I enjoy baking? Each year I usually bake some goodies to give away, mostly cookies. One year I made pumpkin rolls and last year I made banana bread along with cookies. (I have to give a shout out to Mr. MaD since he is my assistant when it comes to baking in bulk. For Princess’s first birthday party, he had to help me bake 80 mini loaves of banana bread to give away as favors.)

This list of things to do could go on and on but I think my plate is full for now. In the  meantime, I still need to make a boy birthday card for this weekend and a baby shower card for next weekend.  I’m also compiling a list of blessings to post in the next few weeks. It’ll be my “I’m thankful” list for Thanksgiving. Praise God for all His blessings in my life. OH….I also need to start preparing for baby’s arrival in January! Yikes!

P.S. My brother called to let me know that the Lock & Lock Bento sets are in the mail and should be arriving shortly! Yippee! I wish I had more time to experiement with bento but my “part-part-time” job has been more like a full-time job for the past week or so. I’ve even caught a cold!